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A collection of letters, reflections, and lessons written for my children.

I still haven’t found what I am looking for

Life is not a straight line. You don’t go from A to B without diversions, and more important, you may know where A is, where you are standing right now, but you don’t yet know what B will be.

You know what you care about. You know what you are good at. But you don’t know what comes next.

This is where I am now. And I have been here before.

Being here is not the same as being lost. Lost means you don’t know who you are. I know who I am. I am a father, a husband, a builder, a thinker, a writer, a friend. These things don’t disappear when the direction is unclear. They are what holds you upright while the picture comes into focus.

The absence of a clear direction is uncomfortable in specific ways. Not like drowning. More like standing in a huge empty room, waiting for something to appear in it.

The U2 wrote a whole song about this feeling. I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For is not a song about failure. It is a song about someone who is still searching and still moving. The searching only stops when you stop.

The moment of clarity never arrives while you are sitting still. It arrives when you are in motion. It shows up in a conversation you weren’t expecting. It emerges from a problem you stumbled into because you were already moving.

Keep working. Keep talking to people. Keep paying attention. Keep searching.
Trust that what you are looking for will find you.
But only if you are already walking toward it.

Right now, I don’t know where I am going. But I am looking for it.

With love, Dad

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